Cheaters Never Win, Winners Never Cheat

Bear with me please while I climb onto my soapbox. I’m here to talk about relationships… And as I’m in one myself I think you all know where it’s going. Well, yes, this article is headed in that general direction, only on a slightly different tangent.

I know literally hundreds of people who are in relationships who shouldn’t be. Who, every weekend, sigh at the fact they may have to actually speak to their partner at some point in the night. Who don’t believe that love exists even though they’ve been with their girlfriend or boyfriend for months or even years. Who flirt and cheat without a second thought for the person they’re hurting.

Decisions decisions!

To me cheating is plain wrong. No two ways about it. If you want to be with more than one person just don’t commit yourself to one person. It’s not exactly hard. You’re not forced to be with them (unless you’re in an arranged marriage but that’s a different story for a different blog post). It physically infuriates me, like watching an obese cat trying in vain to force it’s flabby, furry mass through a cat-flap when the front door is wide open.

There’s just no valid excuse. “But I don’t want to hurt him/her by leaving him/her”. Oh yeah because I’m sure they’ll be jumping for joy when they find out you’re actually bored witless by them and you’ve been going behind their back. I’m sure a drunken fumble with a stranger round the back of Hive is just dandy but that person at home probably won’t feel so elated about it.

It’s not an abstinence lecture. Realistically, we’re at university and the likelihood is you’ll want to sow your wild oats (yes I did say that, if only to spare the blushes of poor James Blake) but it’s not healthy for anyone when you lead a double life. The truth will always come out and when it does it’ll be a realisation for you and your ex – if they have the good sense to bin you immediately – that you had no respect for them and you wasted both of your time.

Have your cake and eat it! Just don’t try wolfing down a cheesecake as well you greedy pig!

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3 Responses

  1. The mind boggles as to where this came from…. anyway…

    I agree with you totally about the

    “I know literally hundreds of people who are in relationships who shouldn’t be. Who, every weekend, sigh at the fact they may have to actually speak to their partner at some point in the night”

    I used to be in that kind of relationship but I got out and I’m now with someone who I would prefer to speak with rather than anyone else.

    And here comes the “however”.

    However, there are many facets to a relationship and a blanket condoning is pretty harsh. The hurting thing is huge, take it from me; I left a marriage after a relationship of 8 years, it is a pain that still haunts me and I did the leaving.

    Cheating is wrong, but try to temper your rage, think about an abused person who is too scared to leave their partner but needs love or the person who’s relationship died years ago but stays due to their kids.

    For all of the “however” I quite like the way you put this together, the last sentance is a touch of genius.

  2. Your view on relationships seems quite cynical, and I don’t think you give modern relationships a chance here. Not everyone jumps into bed with anyone who gives them the passing chance, and those who do obviously are not mature enough for an adult relationship. I still have enough faith in people to think that if you don’t want to be with someone- dont. Cheating is wrong, but not everyone cheats.

    I like Seans technique of ending on a positive: “like watching an obese cat trying in vain to force it’s flabby, furry mass through a cat-flap when the front door is wide open” – brilliant!

  3. You say that, but I’m in a long term relationship and have been for a few years now. I’m not trying to say everyone cheats.. I’m just saying if you’re going to then leave and spare everyone the inevitable hurt. Maybe I didn’t put that across well enough but that’s what I was trying to say anyway.

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